Joel Osteen, an American pastor, and author said, “You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events.”
Hard time is not cursed, This makes us better:
Challenges are a part of life. They are inevitable. Every one of us must go through one difficult time or the other because they make us better. We discover our strengths and weaknesses more when we go through difficulty. Also, we learn how to overcome our fears, which is why hard times are important and necessary, even though we don’t like them. However, staying strong and getting discouraged to give up during hard times can be one of the toughest things to do. Again, if you do, you’ll become a better version of yourself.
So, what should you remember to help you get through hard times? In this video, I’ll share with you things you should remember if you’re going through hard times. This, I believe will help you become a successful person:
1. Think about your past victory:
You’ve overcome challenges before. Think about all the times in the past that you overcame challenges and how you felt knowing that you successfully rose above that challenge? Now, how do you feel about these past victories? Good, right? The point is that, as you did before, you can do it again. The reason you are experiencing yet another hard time is that you have overcome so many in the past. So, even if this one feels like the toughest of them all, remind yourself that you cannot be tested beyond your strength and abilities. And that means that if you have done it before, you can still do it again.
2. Time is the real gamer or a perfect teacher:
We all know that change is the nature of nature.
You’ll learn a lot in the process. Hard times are not there to tease us and just make us suffer unnecessarily. They are there for our benefits- to help us learn and become better people. So, stop seeing hard times as a time to sit around and form a pity party train for yourself, when you can take the time to learn lessons that will be paramount to your success. Robert T. Kiyosaki said, “Winners are not afraid of losing. But losers are. Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.” When you go through difficulty, you learn a lot of yourself, your environment and the people you live with. You begin to see the world from a different perspective that will help you handle situations better, yielding success. So the next time you are presented with difficulty, remind yourself that it is an opportunity to learn and grow, not a time to start feeling sorry for yourself.
3. The day comes after night:
If I question you one thing, “do you know what is the thing that makes a glad person cry and a sad person smile?”
The answer is, “Everything is temporary”. You see, it’s important to remind yourself that we are living beings, we’re not permanent. Hence, everything about us and the world we live in changes from time to time. For instance, we change, we evolve, we deconstruct, we build, we break, we mold, etc. Most importantly, we grow. So when we are faced with difficult times, remember that it is time to grow. Hence, the challenges are going to be temporal, not forever. Again, every challenge that you have conquered in the past, did they last forever? Of course, they didn’t. So, this won’t be any different. Always remember this fact.
4. It’s a universal truth of life:
It happens to everyone. Marjory Sheba said, “All of life’s a test and we all have our challenges to meet.” Even the strongest of us go through rough times feeling nothing different from what we the rest of the world feels- fear. We are tempted to think that our problem is peculiar to us and that we are the only ones going through that particular problem, probably as a punishment for something we did or maybe not. We tend to believe that we are the world’s victims, that’s why we are going through such terrible times. However, the truth is that we are too self-aware, thinking, and focusing so much on our problems, that we refuse to become aware of other people’s troubles. Hence, we conclude that we are the only ones going through so much difficulty in life. You see, no matter how terrible you feel during our hard times, always remember that you are not the only one going through tough times. Everyone else is going through their share of difficulty and because there doesn’t seem like yours doesn’t make it less difficult for them. Reminding yourself this fact will help you feel better because you can take comfort in the knowledge that you are not a target for failure or whatever situation it might be.
5. Perspective is everything:
Gratitude is the key ingredient to happiness. Do you know that being grateful for even the most minuscule things can brighten a gloomy day? So there are some things not going on correctly in your life. However, there are some other things still going on fine. I mean there are some other things others wish they had. So why not focus on the things that are working well and be grateful for them? Oprah Winfrey once said that “Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” Also, according to Zig Ziglar, “Gratitude Is the healthiest of all human emotions. The more you express gratitude for what you have, the more likely you will have even more to express gratitude for.” When you focus on the things that you have and are thankful for them, you’ll find out that you won’t be able to think about the things you don’t have. And not reminding yourself of the things that you don’t have will make you feel good because the truth is that sometimes, we tend to overanalyze things in our head.
6. Be positive:
There are six stages to be positive;
1) Routine-There is a common proverb, “Lazy brain is Evil’s factory”. So try to make a routine with good work and follow it. The routine is the action you carry out – It is fundamental to encourage the routine, as this will build the lasting habit – It can be extremely challenging to stop routines for bad habits. so instead, it is highly encouraged to replace bad routines with positive ones.
2) The Habit Loop– The Habit Loop is a neurological loop that governs any habit- The habit loop consists of three elements: a cue, a routine, and a reward- There is also the craving, or the fuel to work through the loop- Understanding these elements can help in understanding how to change bad habits or form good ones. Routine has been discussed early.
2) Cue- The cue for a habit can be anything that triggers the habit- Cues are usually triggered such as a location, a time of day, other people, an emotional state or an immediately preceding action – For example, listening to some music might be the cue to motivate you to take action – The cue tells the brain to go into automatic processing mode, which can be hard to resist
4) Reward- Every habit ends in a reward, though it may not be obvious to us- For example, having a glass of water when you wake up in the morning makes you feel refreshed and rehydrated – If the reward is positive, your brain will remember the habit and want to repeat it – This will usually be because dopamine is released on the reward, making you feel better
5) Craving- When a habit is repeated and delivers a positive reward, the brain develops a craving for it – This craving can act as fuel for the habit loop, making the routine become more and more automatic…- …which makes the habit “stick” in the long term- When a habit loop isn’t fueled by a craving, it requires more effort to be completed- Understanding why you are building the habit often helps you crave the reward Thanks for watching, please Like, Share andSubscribe
So, instead of putting so much energy thinking about the things that we don’t have, why not focus that same energy on being grateful for the things that we have? Maybe our situation isn’t as bad as our head wants us to believe. But how do we figure that out when the only thing we can think about is that we don’t have this and that. My friend, choose to be grateful for the things you have, no matter how little they might seem. Take-home points When you are going through difficult times, always remind yourself that; Hard times are a part of life and everyone goes through different challenges Hard times are temporalYou’ve overcome difficult situations in the past hard times’ present opportunities to learn lessons that can help improve ourselves grateful for the things that you have. It will take your mind away from the things that you don’t, making you feel better and happy. Thank you very much for watching our videos. We’ll like to give you another interesting video for you to enjoy next but before then, our team will be very happy if you can like this video and share it with your friends on social media. If you’re new here, don’t forget to subscribe so you won’t miss other interesting videos like this. Look at your screen now to see two other videos we handpicked for you to enjoy next. We love you.